2273My mother has said this to me several times throughout my life. My brothers autistic, and Im the older sister, Mary says in her audio commentary.
When my mum first said this to me I was shocked, I thought it was very harsh, and I also thought she would rather her daughter would take her sons place, as the one whos got the disability, rather than celebrating that her daughter is doing well.
This has always stayed with me, because I feel bad for my brother but I also kind of feel bad for myself too. Ive come to the realisation as the years go on that my mum saw that my brother, because he is male and she was raised in an Asian, male dominated society, she felt like he wont have many opportunities that a man would have.
Shes always really scared that hes never going to be able to have a family, or have kids, or be able to provide for his family, or attract a wife. She felt that if it were a girl that had autism, that a girl would still go and find a man and still have children and still be ok and taken care of in society. I think its very old-fashioned, but I think its got a true aspect.
"I think my mum is right, because shes looking into my brothers future, and shes scared for him.
Taken at the Australian pub in Sydney, Australia on the SOTM World Tour.